Archive for October, 2016

How the Read-a-thon went

October 23, 2016

So, the Dewey’s 24 Hour Read-a-thon has ended; but I thoroughly enjoyed myself, and will definitely be taking part in the next one.

It seems like this time ’round, I struck a balance between reading, having fun on social media (eg. participating in challenges, posting about my reading progress) and resting (i.e. having a nap). This time, it wasn’t all about trying to read as much as possible, but it was also about having fun in-between as well.

I managed to finish the end of one book that I put up for review; I started and finished another book that I will be doing a review for next Saturday (this is going to be part of a book blog tour), and then I started another book that I’m hoping to have up for review by this coming Wednesday.

I also had a lot of fun chatting to other book lovers as well while I was doing my social media rounds. It was awesome getting support from other book lovers! Overall I had an awesome time, I even won a mini-challenge! It’s the first time that I’ve won something on the Dewey’s 24 Hour Read-a-thon, so you can imagine that I’m pretty stoked! I will be getting a book from the book depository – I definitely can’t wait for it! I got a lot of required reading done.

Let me know if you participated in the read-a-thon and how you did.

Until next time,

Carmen.

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Faith: Hope of better things to come?

October 15, 2016

I had an awesome start to the day. When I went on Twitter this morning, I was greeted by some great stats:

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I haven’t ever had stats like this before. And this made me think: What if I was on Twitter consistently every day? Social media is a world of opportunities, and this was pointed out to me this morning.

It makes me really excited to start this book blogging journey that I’m on, though with my day job, I know I won’t be able to hold stats like this. One thing about me is that I don’t just like tweeting about anything, or retweeting for that matter. So planning tweets in advance is a little bit pointless at this stage.

Thankfully I am off this weekend from work, so it has given me the opportunity to really throw myself into blogging and social media in general. I just wish everyday could be like this, but while I have my day job, and even when I become self-employed, I know that I’m not going to feel this great about my blogging journey everyday.

But it’s still an encouraging start; and I hope that I steadily keep on going up like this, or at least keeping things as consistent as possible.

For those who would like to follow me on Twitter, the link is here

Until next time,

Carmen.

Thoughts: Genetics and Traits

October 12, 2016

Disclaimer: The opinions and thoughts that I’m about to post are my own; these are just some of the things that cross my mind as I go through life watching people and situations. I’m by no means an expert, I am not claiming to know it all; and am not by any means telling people how to act/react in a situation or how to live or think.

Lately, I’ve been around babies/toddlers or have been hearing second-hand about them and their behaviour. I’m not a mother myself, haven’t ever wanted to be, and still don’t want to be (I know this might seem very shocking to people since I am a 28 year old woman, and believe it or not I am, by choice, single, and also heterosexual). So I am not an expert in this area either, but I do have very specific ideals about what it takes to raise a child (especially in today’s world), and what sort of an environment a child should be in. I’m also by no means saying that it is easy to raise a child, which brings me to my next point:

Why do people take the responsibility of raising a child and bringing a child into this world so lightly? Do they ever think about what traits or character they want their child to have; and if they do, do they keep this in mind when picking a partner? Do they ever think about how their child could turn out if brought up in the wrong environment or if their partner doesn’t have the best traits or character?

What defines how a child turns out? Genetics, environment, what the parents emulate? Is it a equal combination of everything, or do one of those things have a slightly higher say in how a child turns out?

Sometimes I think people stick their heads in the sand about their partner’s faults, which is fine, until a child is involved. What happens when things go wrong and the child starts taking on/mirroring the not-so-great character and traits? Do the parents continue to ignore what’s been staring at them in the face for quite awhile, or do they suddenly realize that their choice of partner wasn’t such a great one, or that the environment that they’ve been exposing their child to hasn’t actually been that good after all? Think about it this way: What will Murphy’s Law dictate? Will the child end up with more not-so-great traits and character than with good ones?

Take note, I’m not talking about worst-case-scenario parents here, I’m talking about relatively basic things, some examples being: parents that constantly need attention (whatever that attention may be), parents that constantly need validation, parents that are insecure (I’m taking about huge crater-size insecurities, ones that can affect character and behaviour, not minor ones that a person can brush off), parents that can’t actually afford to be parents but still are, people that became parents at a young age (about 50 years ago this scenario was still fine, this is most certainly not the case today), and when I say young age, I’m talking about anywhere from 16 until about 22; parents that are emotionally needy, parents that are impatient, parents that don’t actually want to be parents but still are, parents that make the wrong choices because they look in the wrong place for their value, parents that are irresponsible (this can present itself in various ways), etc. I think you get my point.

At the back of my mind, I wonder how these kids will turn out, what (possibly bad) coping strategies will they develop, along with not-so-great character and traits, that will also pass onto their kids when that stage comes to pass. There’s unfortunately a lot of things that have become acceptable, that weren’t acceptable 50 years back, and I wonder how much of it is due to a changing society, to lack of parenting, bad coping strategies or a not-so-great environment.

Take note: I am an aunt – to a nephew. Here are the things I plan on teaching him; if these particular traits happen to be absent at a later age: respect for other people (especially women); to have patience (I most certainly do not believe in instant gratification); to not throw temper tantrums; where to look to for his security and value (to God); to not be defined by his circumstances and upbringing; I will most certainly teach him morals, values and standards (something I don’t think today’s society has any idea about); how to have a good attitude, how to wisely choose a partner and to make good choices.

I do realize that a lot of parents try to make the best of circumstances and trying to juggle everything, but I also think that parents also sometimes focus on the wrong things, or ignore things that they shouldn’t; things that can later have consequences.

Last Disclaimer: I know that I have probably stepped on quite a few landmines broaching this sensitive topic, but I hope that when people read it, that they either have an eureka moment, or realize where I’m coming from. If you’re not a parent yet, and are in the dating world (I’m using ‘dating’ in a very broad sense here), please think ten times before you put yourself in a position where you bring a child into the world and can’t look after it for whatever reason (be it financial, emotional, circumstantial, etc), simply because at the end of the day, it’s the child that suffers for your choice.

Until next time,

Carmen.

Thoughts: Negativity

October 11, 2016

Today’s been an up and down day. And again, something has been re-enforced to me:

I need to get away from negativity.

I find that in the corporate world, and I think in particular the care-giving industry; there’s a lot of negativity in terms of things that a person has to deal with, has to see to, has to try and sort through, everything that has to be listened to; that just gets a little bit much sometimes. I need to take myself out of an environment that can give people a reason to be negative.

Make no mistake, there are positives, but there has come a point where negativity has tipped the scales; that it’s not worth it to be in that environment anymore. I need to be in an environment where I can control how much negativity comes my way and what I can take into account and what I can toss.

I’m also aware that the environment that I’m working my way towards isn’t always going to be sunshine and roses, but I will still be in control of a lot of the environment that I’m in, and in control of what I expose myself to.

At this point in time, I’m being exposed involuntarily to a mostly negative environment, and I need to get away from that. And I know that I’m steadily getting closer to where I want to be.

Until next time,

Carmen.

Thoughts: People that demand

October 9, 2016

This is something that has basically always bugged me, but recently, I came to a point where I’ve put up a boundary in my mind, in other words, I’m going to try and not be around people like this. The only problem is that as long as I’m in my current job, I’m unfortunately going to be exposed to people that demand.

I am aware that I shouldn’t just ‘block’ people off like that, especially if I don’t know what went on prior to them making their demand known (and not very nicely at that either), but I believe that in the service industry (and I know that some people won’t agree with me on this), a customer should be nice to those that are giving them the service. If there happens to be something that a customer doesn’t like, why must a temper tantrum be thrown just because things aren’t going the way the customer wants it to; surely a calm explanation will do the trick?

And yes, I also know that there are limits to this, but people should try as far as possible to be nice to ones that serve them. But I suppose ‘people that demand’ are unfortunately the byproduct of the western world most of us live in.

Take note, that I am a customer as well, and I try as far as possible to be nice (some people that know me better would say that I’m too nice), but I do try to practice what I preach.

Until next time,

Carmen.

Thoughts: Ideas

October 5, 2016

These past two days have been pretty awesome! My book blogging journey is about to start moving forward, simply because I’ve started getting ideas of where I want to go with this book blog, new additions that I’d like to do, and what I want the final website to look like.

I’ve kept notes on my phone about the things that I want to do. Whether they’re going to actually work or not, only time will tell once the website is up. It feels like I’m finally starting to make progress, move forward, and have found a breakthrough…one that I’m hoping will work.

But even though all these ideas are flying through my head, I am still trying to be realistic and I know that these things will take time, and that results won’t happen overnight.

A lot of the additions will only take place once I’m close to becoming self-employed, simply because these will be things that are going to be time consuming, and I know that once I’m self-employed, I’ll have a lot more time to blog and to be active on social media.

The link to my current book blog is here

Feel free to check it out, I post at least once a week.

Until next time.

Carmen

Thoughts: Time, where does it go?

October 2, 2016

This is another blogging urge that I’ve given into, and with a topic that has plagued me every now and then. One thing that I’ve noticed is that time is, unfortunately, very fleeting.

One thing I regret is not using my time better when I still had it, i.e. when I still worked part-time. I’ve only been making up for that in the last month or so, but, if I’d had used my time better, maybe I’d be pretty close to becoming self-employed, though it’s no use going over what-if’s, I can only do the best I can right now.

Something that I’ve come to love lately is the mornings. I find that I function quite well during those hours. But then I think of weekdays where I’m at work and I can’t utilize that and am not able to be in my creative head-space that has become an essential part of me.

Another thing that I would love to have the time to do, is be on and involved in social media more. But with time restraints, I have to make do with what I can. Weekends (and days off) is where I do most of my stuff, and where I actually have the time to stretch things out and not cram into a very short period of time.

I also realize that if I do end up blogging full time, not everyday is going to be sunshine and roses. There will be days where I don’t feel like blogging, and that there will be days where blogging is more a chore than it is a creative fun thing to do. And there are days where I get impatient to get going, but I also know that all good things come to those who wait.

Until next time,

Carmen.

Reading: How my day went yesterday

October 1, 2016

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One thing I haven’t ever done is spent so much on a whole hoard of books (that I’m not sure where I’m going to put yet, since I don’t have the space), in one go. And honestly, I shouldn’t have spent so much…

As you can see from the picture above, these are the books that I got yesterday. Oh – and another thing: I’m not sure when I’m going to get around to these ones either, since my review schedule is a little full.

Out of all these books that I got, I’ve previously read books by 3 of these authors that you see here: Ann Rice; Jane Austen and J Randy Taraborrelli. I’ve read two of Jane Austen’s books (and have absolutely loved them!), I’ve only read one of J Randy Taraborrelli (which I enjoyed), and I’ve read two of Ann Rice’s books (love her writing style!).

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One thing I’ve got to say about this book that I got of Ann Rice, ‘Price Lestat’, is that I think the cover is gorgeous! This was the only book of hers that was cheap at my local bookstore, so I decided to get it.

Basically all these books that I got were cheap, but it still added up when I paid for them, though I don’t regret getting any of them. Let me know if you’ve read any of these books and what you thought of them.

I’m still on my journey of slowly creating my path to becoming a book blogger full time!

Until next time,

Carmen.